When I think about supports, I immediately think of my husband and the tremendous support he is to me. My daily life is supported by him in many ways, not only emotionally but practical and physical too. He helps me everyday with household chores like laundry and washing dishes and clearning the house. He also helps me in practical things like doing our online banking and taking care of all the odd jobs around our house. If something breaks, I know he will fix it, I never give it a thought. Lastly, but most importantly, he is my emotional rock. He keeps my spirits up when I need it and he's always there to help me, laugh with me and even cry with me. He also happens to be the best father in the world to our three children and there is a great love between him and our boys and he helps me cloth them, feed them, educate and love them.
The challenge I chose to imagine is my life WITHOUT him. Just the thought of it brings tears to me eyes. My life would be upside down! I would need help without a doubt because I don't think I could raise these three children, manage this household, work full time and do my Master's all on my own. I would need someone to watch the kids in the morning and after school for starters because my job doesn't allow me to be home with them in the mornings or after school. That would mean, of course, that I would need more financial means to pay that person. I would also have to figure out the banking (which I'm guilty of not doing right now), so I could pay the bills. Speaking of paying the bills, I wouldn't be able to afford this house without him, nor the truck I drive so I would have to move to a smaller place and drive a more affordable car. I don't know how to fix a thing either, so I guess I would also have to pay for handy work should things break around my new, smaller place. My Master's would also have to go because I can't afford this without him either. Lastly, but most importantly, I would lose my rock, so I have absolutely NO IDEA what I would do without my very best friend. I can't imagine substituting him with someone else, so maybe therapy would become a big part of my life so I would have someone to talk to. I don't have much family so this is pretty much what my life would be like without my #1 SUPPORTIVE HUSBAND! May GOD BLESS HIM EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!!!!!!!!
I really hope I don't sound too shallow, but this really comes straight from the heart. I know many single mothers who struggle and make it work and I commend them LIKE CRAZY because I don't know how they do it...... This is my truth.
Reading about what your husband has done for you is amazing! I cannot wait to find someone like that! It is sad to think that there are a lot of mothers out there that are raising their kids on their own. I cannot imagine how hard that would be. In a marriage, I believe that the two should work together to support their family and it seems like that is what you guys have! That is awesome to hear!!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much, I agree 100%, it's all about teamwork in a marriage, and yes, I consider myself very blessed. Thanks for not thinking I was too over the top! lol
DeleteI tried to post on your page, but couldn't. I wanted to tell you that I admire the support system you had and continue to have with your parents. My parents and I were never close, and it's great to read stories like yours because that's exactly the kind of story I hope my own children are sharing someday about my husband and myself.
You're a very lucky girl!
Thanks for commenting... :)
You are not being the least bit shallow Jeanette. It would be very hard to lose my husband also and I would have to give up the same things as you and I love where I'm at. My husband is 67, and while that is not old, these are things we need to start considering. I get very anxious thinking about it. I also know that lives can change in a matter of seconds and that reminds not to take any of my abundant blessings for granted - it sounds like you are also very grateful for your wonderful husband and the many gifts he brings to your life.
ReplyDelete67 years young I like to call is Lisa! Looks like we share the "good husband" blessing. I agree 100%, we have to take in every moment because life is sooooo precious! I hope you have many, many more healthy and happy years together!
DeleteThanks for posting!
Janet