Conflict Resolution, ahhh, those two words that everyone knows but everyone hates. Nobody likes conflict, at least I don't think they do. Not only is it draining on you but it's draining on those around you. I can remember a conflict that I had just a week ago, and it's very personal so I can't really share the details in case that person is reading my blog, but let's just say it was two strong personalities arguing their side of an issue that has created great distance between the two people for years and years. The issues at this point aren't important anymore, it's the distance that stands. We are strangers because of life's past events and because responsibility can't be taken and apologies aren't happening, we are getting NOWHERE.
I must take responsibility for being on the attack. I wasn't violent, but very verbally aggressive, and I regret that very much but the circumstances of our conversation or argument created a hostile environment for both of us and it should never have taken place at that time. Tension was high, stress was tremendous as we were losing a close family member, and I guess that's a time where families get together and things just seem to happen.
Looking back now, I know I have some repairing to do, I need to be more relaxed when this person approaches me again. I need to listen and see if our conflict has a resolution. It's so far beyond repair for me that I have to come up with a compromise that I can live with and work toward a better relationship in the future because our past is our past and really cannot be changed. It's going to take a great effort on my part and I don't even know if I'm ready, but I am willing to be open to the possibility of moving forward once responsibility and acceptance is received. I am going to try hard to practice the 3R's because it's the only way I think I can really try to resolve this conflict once and for all.....only then can we begin to heal.
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